Just walk into it.
Walk into the room and if you have something to say. Say it.
Silence may be all there is in that moment. Let it hang there. Observe it as you would a painting. Let your moment’s museum echo with the footsteps only you can hear.
Take a chance.
Since ditching the bottle, I’ve had my share of messes. Moments where I wished that there was some way to make things simpler, or lighter, anything other than what they were. But, sobriety won’t clean a mess, it will only make it easier to see. So, there they were, as they were, these moments, inevitable and unchanging. Uncomfortable and unbreached.
I learn the same lesson over and over again in sobriety: Life is too wild. Untamable. So, let it buck underneath you, and prepare to be thrown. The hard road is the only road. Take it. Quit fighting it. Surrender to what was never under your control in the first place.
Life is just a series of messes. Revel in them. Without our messes, everything becomes meaningless.
This past weekend: A mess.
I literally walked in circles. I waited for a phone call. I paged through books, pretending to read. I turned on my music with the illusion I’d hear anything other than my own thoughts.
And then, it came. The messy moment. My arms extended to embrace the thing I still cannot see. Feather or thorn, it’s anyone’s guess.
In the quiet of my own museum, I received my instructions: Take a chance.
On myself. On someone else. On living without fear.
So, I took a risk. The messy kind. Because walking in circles will get you nowhere. Phone calls are only as good as who’s on the other end of the line. Books are only great when there’s a story on every. fucking. page. And, you’ll only dance to music you can hear, so, if your thoughts are too loud — turn up the volume.